We've been having a hard time with our middle one. She is normally the cheerful, snuggly child, but in the last few weeks she seems to have developed an extremely stubborn, whiney, and defiant personality. Perhaps she senses the changes to come with baby? Maybe she resents that I'm no longer able to do all the things I used to with her? Either way, Rich and I have had it up to here!
We went to a friend's house a few days ago. In 2 hours, Eva refused to share, whined for no reason, demanded dessert (no please or thank you), threw a tantrum when she realized it was Jello and not candy, and generally made a ruckus. I tried to hide my red face, and vowed to never let her leave her room again. When we got home, our conversation went like this:
Mom: Hey, Eva, let's play a little game!
Eva: Okay! *giggles & claps*
Mom: It's called the Good or Bad Game. I'll say something and you tell me if it's good or bad. What if you're at someone's house and they offer you lunch. Should you cry?
Eva: *realizes it's a trap* No.
Mom: What if they offer you Jello and you don't want it. Should you throw yourself on the floor and scream?
Eva; *realizes she's been found out and that Daddy now knows her naughty ways* No.
Mom: Let's play another game. It's called the Feeling Game. What if Mommy is at someone's house with Eva and Eva throws a fit. Do you think Mommy feels happy, or embarrassed at Eva's behaviour?
Eva: *quiet pause* I don't want to play anymore.
So, we're trying to figure out what to do about Eva. Any suggestions? Remember, they have to be legal.
I'll post another entry with some ideas I've got.